Isn't it amazing how people buy into things?

I find it hard to believe that individuals actually like certain movies, or if it’s just some big subconscious thing that everybody is in on. Like Avatar… okay, the movie isn’t so bad. Dialogue is okay, and the special effects are awesome. But is it one of the most groundbreaking, spectacular pieces of cinema? No.

Yes, you say, it has pretty, pretty special effects. Which makes it undeniably groundbreaking in that realm. But that’s a cinematic feature that only plays a small part in what makes a film grand. There are many great films that don’t have crazy awesome special effects.

That’s why… okay I wanted to say why bad movies become big hits because it was my first thought, but I fully include myself in this one and I enjoy many an overblown film. My reword: I think it’s why some movies become blown out of proportion, or turned into something they’re just not. Avatar had AMAZING effects and that’s why everyone secretly wanted to see it. Because it looked cool and it would be optically stimulating fun as shit to see.

What adult wants to admit they have the same basic needs as an infant; to look at pretty shiny things that move around a lot really fast? So everyone decides it’s the greatest achievement in filmmaking ever. Go ahead and argue “well the story wasn’t very original and the acting was just mediocre” and the first thing they will say? “But the special effects are amazing!” Possibly the second? “But James Cameron directed! He’s amazing!”

This isn’t really a critique of society. I’m not trying to say people are sheep or something like that. I’m merely making an observation about the way things might work. Of course I could be wrong…. Sometimes I worry that I give humanity the benefit of the doubt too often.

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What really makes married people cheat?

I think this might be a good way to start each entry, with a “what really…”. It might even be better to call this thing “Sometimes I Wonder”.* And although I think there are many reasons, there is one direction I’m (sort of) heading today. It starts with my cat looking kind of sick. I don’t think it’s too serious, but if it continues for a couple more days he’ll go to the vet. Which if you think is amazing how much money humans will spend to keep the member of another species alive, the only species that will do so. No matter what cartoons tell you, bears do not want to be your friends.*

Anyway, he’ll go to the vet and my mom will tell my dad because whether or not he really cares (which I secretly think he does) because that’s what married people do. They tell each other everything; they’re married duh. But this kills a crucial part of their relationship, and no, it’s not the mystery. They’ve been married a long time, and the mystery is gone. But the autonomy is what’s being compromised. The ability to have a secret and keep it to oneself is a very important autonomous trait. It’s a subconscious connection between not having to share your secret with a mate and not needing a serious mate. That feeling when you wake up in the morning and know that no one depends on you, and you don’t have to depend on anyone, and life is relatively easy. Autonomy is an important trait to keep even when in a relationship, although there must be a compromise. I don’t know why because I haven’t thought of a good reason but I just have a weird science-y feeling. While it’s good to keep some secrets to one self, it’s also good to share because it strengthens the bond. The best thing to do is find a perfect balance between autonomy and dependency.

Okay, duh this only works in a Kate Hudson movie. She always manages to find the perfect balance in her life. Which is impossible, because it’s a Hollywood produced film and everything is grossly exaggerated. All I’m saying is that if autonomy and dichotomy are on opposite ends of the see saw, the side with the fat kid is going to spend too long on the ground and the other side is going to get bored.

*See, this is where my thoughts go. They never stay in one direction to reach a conclusion; they take at least 10 different roads (self high-five on the good analogy).

*Yay human-only traits! I love when I think about these. I think I watch Bones too often.

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